Specializing in therapy to manage anxiety, OCD, panic, stress or worry

 
Parents, Spouses & Caregivers

Relationships are so diverse in their struggles and how they try to resolve them. The truth is that getting needs met in a relationship can be difficult when we really have never learned how to do this in a loving way. I teach skills to build connection, communicate clearly and lovingly, to resolve conflicts, and learn to make choices that serve your relationship well. We can learn to speak in a loving way, in a language the other person understands, while also respecting their needs, valuing their dreams, and partnering with them for a successful relationship. Some relationships wait months and occasionally even years to get help, but those who seek help sooner find relief faster and they are always glad they did.

When your relationship is being torn apart, we often go to a dark place. Life is joyless. Food loses its flavor. Work has a dark cloud lingering over each task. Nothing feels good. During these times, we start to question our choices, who we are, and even what we are choosing to do with our life. Relationships that seek help often say things to me like “there is no love”, “I don’t know how I can ever forgive them?”, or “how can I trust them again?” Behaviors easily become habits, and when we practice negative ones, they eventually define our relationships.

Behind the veil of any relationship, we can experience times when we stop believing that this is best for us, ‘like we just know’. We might stop trusting the best intentions of the other people, maybe doubt our love for them, stop communicating our deepest needs, desires, and wants. We even start responding in unloving and unforgiving ways. I teach my clients how to choose love during these moments, to create an environment where those conversations can happen again, to again see those actions present.

Think of your love and relationship as a car: it needs maintenance. Prevention is always better than any repair. It is easier, less expensive, and faster! For example, a lot of my premarital counseling clients keep coming back again and again, even after their wedding, through their first year, when their child arrives, and beyond. They have discovered a little-known secret: that a happy life, always takes ongoing effort.

To provide the highest level of care, I spend time and get to know each person in every relationship as an individual. We have separate intake sessions, and sometimes several individual sessions together, before and between sessions together. We begin the work where any change must first begin: in ourselves. This allows each person to take a humble look at their role in the relationship and work on setting the necessary change in motion for improvement.

If you are reading this and struggling, the best advice I can give you is to not wait to get support. Reach out to a counselor. Call me. I would love to help you through this.

 
First Responders

Hello tough guys and women of steel. You are absolutely the best of us, sacrificing every day for our community. Few can truly understand the daily stress you and your families are under, but after years of helping police officers, doctors, and nurses, I have a good idea of the pressure and conflicts that face you in today’s world and with the public; uniquely the stress you and your family have been under through the pandemic and recent social unrest.

You may have started out strong, but the past few months have grown increasingly difficult. Maybe you have started having heart palpitations, questioning your decisions, crying easily, or having vivid images and thoughts from your work. 

I would like to be your confidential, safe place to let your guard down, even if its only a brief hour, so that you may express the stress you're under, the tough decisions you’ve had to make, and even cry if you let yourself, so that you can continue to deliver high quality protection, care and love to our community and your family.

Therapists
 

I am so glad you found me! I have been waiting to help you. In that time, I have served as a clinician, case supervisor, clinical supervisor, college instructor, clinical director, and program manager. You are sincerely my people to work with because our work is so important and hard! We have a tough job emotionally supporting the world around us. Many of you are also highly empathic and sensitive people who experience this work at a deeper level. Maybe you are being emotionally overwhelmed by its realities or emotionally connected to your clients deeply in a way that you did not expect. We are undergoing a parallel experience right now with our clients, one of which we have not experienced since 9/11 and we need to support each other more than ever.

In my 20 years of being a therapist, I have had the privilege of hiring, training, providing training & clinical supervision to pre-licensed/ licensed therapists and mental health workers in professional and clinical practice. I have especially enjoyed consulting with other therapists about private practice startups, walking alongside student therapists, through graduate school, their first practicum sites, through licensure and beyond.

There is no need to feel shame or embarrassment about wanting emotional support for yourself, you need it most, in some ways. We carry the burdens of others daily and make a career of it…the community needs you more now than ever, so get the support YOU need from someone that understands and has been there.

 
Business Owners & the Self-Employed

My practice has focused on current and aspiring business owners for the past 6 years. The stress of business ownership is unique, often putting stress on personal, marriage and family life. Business owners particularly bear the burden of balance and self-motivation in a way different from an employee, we struggle with juggling priorities, budgets, organization, putting boundaries around our work and home, setting limits to how much we spend on both, how to use our resources of time and money efficiently and decisions about moving forward with our businesses.

 

I have been helping business owners find balance in their lives for years and I would like to help you. No matter your business, the struggles are universal. Call me to clarify where to go next!

 
Anxiety

Anxiety can build up over the day, weeks, and years of someone’s life and often result in a panic attack, intrusive thoughts, or compulsive habits. Symptoms like a racing heart, chest pain or tightness, struggling to breathe can send them to an emergency room, but more so it sneaks up and builds up to something that can feel unmanageable. Ongoing stomachaches, headaches and backaches could also stem from chronic anxiety. People experiencing anxiety can suffer so long and intensely with physical, emotional, and psychological pain that they start avoiding activities, conversations, people and places that they use to enjoy, often resulting in emergency room visits.  

I had my first panic attack as a teen and dealt with the helplessness and frustration it brings. Later getting my degrees in psychology helped me to be able to identify the contributions to my anxiety and start to understand how to master it. I began conquering my anxiety through a journey of self-reflection and analysis to develop what I now teach people when they are in their struggle with worry. How I see anxiety is this: we have conditioned our bodies and minds to be anxious, we need to and can retrain it to not be anxious.

Anxiety robs us of time, energy, sleep, and dignity. Unknowingly, you may have trained your body and mind to be anxious and you can condition them to be calm. I teach my clients how to manage the physiological, cognitive, and emotional symptoms of anxiety, worry, panic, fears and stress often without medication. My style is gently direct focusing on solutions and goal oriented. My office feels like a living room and I make people feel like our sessions are like chatting over coffee with a friend.

Techniques include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for mood and anxiety disorders, CBT for insomnia, and exposure and response prevention therapy for obsessive compulsive disorders, all of which I have certifications. These are the leading researched and science-based treatments for what you are going through. We then move into more individualized solution-oriented approaches to your struggles.

 
Parenting a child with ADHD

I have been providing community education and support groups for children with Attention Deficit Disorders and their caregivers since 2002. Certified in 2004, as a Parent to Parent Trainer though CHADD, certified in 2005, as an Incredible Years Parenting, Curriculum Certified Group Leader (ages 0-5), and certified in 2013 as a Core Elements Trainer for Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Anxiety, Depression, and Disruptive Disorders. For 15 of my 20 years in mental health I have specifically worked with elementary/ middle school aged youth, foster youth, and families learning to work within the educational system to meet their child’s educational needs. I have worked alongside school counselors, administrators and school psychologists to develop behavior support plans, 504, and individualized education plans, sometimes attending these meetings with parents.

My methods include ongoing assessment, parent education, art, behavioral and kinesthetic (play) therapy, educational supports tailored to your child to improve overall well being and relationships. Your children are not lazy, you did not cause this, and early intervention can help them with their path for entire lives. Caregivers are the most useful and important advocate and support for a child’s mental health, if you would like to have an expert in your corner, call me for a free consultation.